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Feeling Jealous?
You are not alone. Let's understand what might be going on.
What This Might Feel Like…
Feeling jealous is something many young people experience, especially in a world where we are constantly seeing other people’s lives online. Jealousy is a normal emotion. It usually shows up when we feel insecure, left out, or worried about losing something important to us.
Comparing yourself to others
Feeling not good enough
Overthinking someone else's success
Worrying about being replaced
Feeling left out
Sudden drops in confidence
Comparing yourself to others Feeling not good enough Overthinking someone else's success Worrying about being replaced Feeling left out Sudden drops in confidence
Causes
Jealousy often grows from comparison. Social media can make this stronger because we mostly see highlights, filters, achievements and carefully chosen moments.
It can be linked to:
– Social media highlight reels
– Unrealistic beauty standards
– FOMO (Fear of missing out)
– Low self confidence
– Friendship or relationship insecurity
– Past experiences of rejection
Get Support
If jealousy is starting to affect your friendships, relationships or confidence, it can really help to talk it through.If it feels safe, have an honest conversation with your friend or partner about how you are feeling. Try to use calm, open language and focus on your feelings rather than blame.
You might also speak to a trusted adult or teacher if you are struggling to manage big emotions on your own.
Jealousy can feel embarrassing, but it is a very human emotion. Talking about it openly and calmly can stop it from building up or turning into resentment.
What Helps?
Jealousy can feel intense, but small changes in your thinking and behaviour can help you manage it.
Focus on your own strengths and small wins
Speak to yourself with kindness, not criticism
Limit social media if it affects your mood
Notice comparison and pause it
Downloadable Resources
When you experience jealousy, it can sometimes feel confusing or overwhelming.
Our Cycle of Jealousy worksheet helps you reflect on a moment when you felt jealous by exploring what it looked like, sounded like and felt like. This can help you better understand the thoughts, emotions and behaviours connected to that experience.
Things to help
From figuring out your feelings to finding practical ways to handle stress or support someone close to you, we are here to give you the tools, guidance and support you need.
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